Family Life Articles

Home Sweet Homebirth

There is an overwhelming cultural belief in the United States that hospitals are the safest place to give birth, regardless of the extensive scientific data that suggests otherwise. Numerous studies around the world have documented the safety of...

The Forgotten

Wow! It’s real! The test turned blue. The plus sign appeared. No questions. You are pregnant. Now the fun starts. The planning, the picking of names, baby clothes, diapers, wipes, and birth plans. Will you give birth at home? In a hospital?...

A Tale of Two Births: How Chiropractic Reshaped How I Birth

Leading up to my first birth, I had obstetric care until I was 34 weeks. My obstetrician told me I would be induced two weeks early, for no reason other than he felt it was best, so I transferred care to a group of midwives. Overnight, it seemed, I...

Co-Sleeping and Biological Imperatives

Why Human Babies Do Not and Should Not Sleep AloneWhere a baby sleeps is not as simple as current medical discourse and recommendations against co-sleeping in some western societies want it to be. And there is good reason why. I write to...

Rereading How Children Learn

The Joy and Sorrow of Revisiting the Work of John HoltIn a survey we conducted a few years ago, educational psychologist Gina Riley and I asked unschooling families to name the writers whose works had influenced them most in their decision...

Who Knows What’s Good or Bad?

We don’t always understand why certain things happen. At times it could be so easy to be mad. To play the victim. To feel shame, disgrace, or even envy. It could be so easy for my husband and me to get angry, since this is our second...

A Child's Innate Gifts

Each child is unique. Parents come to know their offspring as highly distinct individuals soon after birth. In part, that’s because babies arrive with traits and talents waiting in a raw state of potential. Young people have an inborn drive t...

Infant Needs and the On-Demand Life

On-demand services may have spoiled parenting—yes, by their very convenience. For example, we no longer have to plan our schedule around the airing of our favorite program or make efforts to record a particular show. With a few clicks, we can e...

Co-Sleeping Contributes to Optimal Brain Development

Like all mammals, humans have been sleeping alongside their babies for millions of years. Babies have an innate desire to stay in constant contact with their caregivers for survival. In most of the world, it’s still the norm for children to...

It Takes Two to Tantrum

When Toddlers Act Out, Parental Expectations are a Piece of the PuzzleMost of the time, when your child is having a tantrum, the episode is more accurately characterized as an interaction between the two of you. Generally, your...

Time In

The popular “time-out” behavior management technique is less harsh than traditional forms of discipline, but it’s still a punishment—like a mini jail sentence. Time-outs usually include a shame component as well (e.g., the “Naughty Chair”)....

Peeling the Onion

When I talk with my kids, I love sharing analogies of how the natural world is reflected in their bodies. One of my favorite ones is this: Your body is like an onion. Layers of experiences and responses build up: falls, injuries, positioning;...

After the Break-Up

Having a Positive Divorce is Up to You…But if You Have Kids, You’ll Have to Heal on Two Levels at OnceDivorce hits every aspect of your life. There is no escaping the waves of disbelief mixed with relief and terror and joy. It’s a very...

The Beauty of Fathering During Pregnancy: What Babies are Teaching Us

Our core understandings of babies and early human experience are in the midst of a fundamental paradigm shift. In my article “Consciousness at the Beginning of Life,” published in the previous issue of Pathways [Issue 57, Spring 2018], I...

The Roseto Effect: How a Close-Knit Community Can Enjoy a Reduced Rate of Heart Disease

It seemed like a virtual fountain of youth, with a heart attack mortality rate roughly half the rate of every surrounding community. Same water, same neighborhood, same occupational mix, same income level ranges, same races. So what was the...

Village: Our Loss, Our Longing

When I was in college, I heard about hippies living together on communes. It sounded so wild, so flowery, so free. Midwives, breast milk, raw honey kind of free. Then my college roommates came along. Our house was nowhere near as clean as my...

How Kids Benefit from Real Responsibilities

Years ago, my two older kids, about 7 and 9 at the time, were getting ready to wash the floor. A neighbor girl knocked at the door, asking to play. When my son told her he was going to wash the floor first, she begged to be included. This girl had...

5 Ways Partners Can Support Breastfeeding Moms (A Dad's Perspective)

When I read articles and stories about breastfeeding, I frequently come across the comment that breastfeeding leads to a diminished role for the dad. After all, if only Mom can feed the baby, how will Dad get a chance to bond with his child? This...

Kids Don't "Fight" Sleep: What's Really Happening When Kids Resist Bedtime

We’ve all experienced kids “fighting” sleep—and boy, is it ever annoying! But are they really fighting it, or is something else going on? My oldest daughter could have been categorized as one who “fights sleep.” From the day she was born, those...

A Message from our Editor, Issue #58 - Guarding the Sacred Space

Almost daily, I see parents discussing the benefits of chiropractic care for their children. What many do not know is that chiropractors have included children in their recommendations for health and well-being since the inception of chiropractic....